We women rock!

September 30, 2009 at 7:45 pm (Uncategorized)

We women rock because the hand that rocks the cradle can rock the world

Weather it is a paved path or rock-y, we are strong- as strong as a rock

We know hard-work. will come out with flying colors and shine like a rock

I just wanted (over)use ( 🙂 ) ‘rock’ in what I wanted to say hence the lines above, instead I could have just expressed as below.

We women rock because the hand that rocks the cradle can rock the world

Women are powerful because we make difference by bringing up new generation in a right way and by ourselves – by dominating on many fronts including career/biz

(I edited the famous saying ‘hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, that is, women/who raises kids can rule the world by raising the kids in a right way so that kid can make a difference in this world. I am changing it a bit by saying, if we can make a difference through our kids by raising kids correctly, why don’t we do it ourselves?, we can and we do)

Weather it is a paved path or rock-y, we are strong- as strong as a rock

We are fine in any situation –steady or shaky. We know how to fight back and be strong (like a rock)

We know hard-work, will come out with flying colors and shine like a rock

We work hard for what we want and we excel at it, we know how to make our place and shine (like a rock – diamond)

Three cheers to these career-women!

(After reading a blog of a blog-friend, I agree women have been working since the start of human-generation then what is up with really ‘working-woman’ term. So I coin a word ‘career-woman’. Seems it is self-explanatory though one can argue that in past women had careers by helping in the family business – say farming. I agree but it was ‘help’ and they did not make any money as blog mentions. Also it was not seen as main accountable person for the whole business. So let’s put it this way, career-woman who thrives to make difference in this world, held accountable for a role she has outside her house and makes money out of it. I can still see some arguments going, but that is not the point of this blog I have so I am not going into details.)

(and I know in that introspect, I should change my name to ICW from IWW 😉 )



Any day is a woman-day, happy woman-day!


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Aarushi Talwar and Annie Lee

September 24, 2009 at 8:27 pm (Uncategorized)

Both the ladies were murdered in their known and closed territory, Aarushi in her house and Annie in her office. Avid watcher of crime shows like I am, can tell it was open-shut case because it was done in victims’ own area. Easy to find evidences, easy to find motives and easy to drive a list of suspects and drive conclusion. While both are unfortunate incidents, Annie finds justice in few days as it happened in U.S. and Aarushi is still waiting for one even after 16 months, just because in happened in India?


Chronological info for both the cases can be found here or just search for their names on web.




When I came across news that Aarushi’s cell phone found 16 months after her murder, it was not a shocker till I read details that it was being use all this time. In this technology era, when India can make a breakthrough in findings like water on moon, why would it take to such a long time to locate a working (on and off) cell phone?


In Annie’s case, police collected over 100 forensics evidence, in Aarushi’s case, police happily allowed media to roam around in the area of crime scene. Why? Did they already know it was going to happen and wanted to lose the evidences?

From many places no fingerprint was collected? Why? Lack of diligence, lack of knowledge or lack of integrity and honesty?

Police did not see blood trail going up the terrace? (Where Talwar’s domestic helper’s body was) why? Simply negligence?

Parents used to lock Aarushi’s bedroom every night? Why? Were they suspecting something?

Some site reports Talwars were not home when it happened and some mentions they slept through the murder? What is the truth? How parents can leave a teenage daughter at alone with ‘male’ domestic helper.

Aarushi’s vaginal sample was switched? Why? Lab tech who did the testing knows Talwars is just a co-incident?


My list of ‘Why’ can just go on but it is not the point. Question is Annie’s murderer is found and Aarushi is still waiting. Example of ‘water on moon’ shows we are not behind in technology so what is taking too long?

And if the domestic helper did it, or father did it, is it a shoddy social system we have?

Police did not do due diligence in initial investigation because they were bribe or they were not trained, then is it shoddy protection/legal system we have or shoddy education system we have?

CBI is still probing the case and as some reports, CBI planting and finding evidences, again is it shoddy protection/legal system we have?

Also after finding the cell phone, update is there was a number she talked for hours, does technology do us more harm than good? Should we not allow our kids to have their freedom, their space, and exposure to technologies for mundane life?


When Annie’s murder can be found so soon why Aarushi has to wait is my only question. Main lead on CBI for this case has been change has been many time and I hope some ‘mai ka lal/lali’ would come now and get Aarushi justice in a righteous way.

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A discovery

September 18, 2009 at 11:40 pm (Message in a bottle)

Summer is over and school has started.  Again I start picking up my son from school and listen to his little stories. 🙂

Two days back…

DS: Mom I made a discovery

Me: aha! That is awesome, what is it

DS: Mom, I am a scientist (because I discovered something….his interpretation of. in past, what we told him ‘what a scientist is’)

ME: true, since you discovered something you ARE a scientist. So what is your discovery?

 DS: you know mom, binocular bag has a zipper…( in his class they observer ‘nature’ and the bag they keep the binocular in has one more pocket with zipper, that is what he meant)

ME: how fantastic

MESSAGE IN A BOTTLE: Dream big, find joy in every little thing!

Have great week-end, friends!

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Modern Parenting 101

September 4, 2009 at 7:06 pm (Parenting)

In 21st Century, how we raise or want to raise out child has changed a lot from how our parents or grandparents did. For one, I almost end up treating like my DS as an adult in the house for the most part (though I make sure  he knows ‘who is the boss’ 😉 I have lots of differences from what/how my in-laws want to do things for my DS.  Like, my MIL goes ‘do not allow kid to touch anything in the car, it is very risky’…rightly so if we have not discussed the rules and safety issues. I allow touching stuff in the car with restrictions. Honking horn is ok, using car-keys is not. I think that helps kids to feel importance and learn responsibilities. Another example, I would get help from my DS to unload the dishwasher or to put laundry in dryer from washer. For me it is a step towards being ‘independent’. For MIL, earning (because he is a man, you know what I mean) is (and for now, him being able to eat by himself and such things are only under the list of  being independent) part of being independent. Anyhow, I can go on and on.  But idea of parenting for basic essential is still the same- showing love, giving time, listening, trusting….and much more. But though the concept remain the same, how we do it has changed, in my opinion. I came across following two poems and I think they capture it beautifully….they say it all….i rest my case 🙂

“Everyday I Have My Child to Raise Over Again”by Diane Loomans 

Every day I have my child to raise all over again.

I will build self-esteem first, and the house later.

I will finger-paint more, and point the finger less.

I will do less correcting, and more connecting.

I will take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.

I will care to know less, and know to care more.

I will take more hikes, and fly more kites.

I will stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I will run through more fields, and gaze at more stars.

I will do more hugging, and less tugging.

I will see the oak tree in the acorn more often.

I will be firm less often, and affirm much more.

I will model less about the love of power, and more about the power of love.



Lifetime Memories for Our Children

Pause with your child—when others hurry by;

Walk with your child—when others are running;

Smile with your child—when others can only find frowns;

Listen to your child—when others appear preoccupied;

Talk with your child—when others prefer shouting;

Hug your child—when others fail to sense the power of touch;

Read with your child—when others have forsaken curiosity;

Play with your child—when others prefer being entertained;

Apologize to your child—when others pretend perfection;

Dream with your child—when others have become too cynical.

by Dr. Anthony Witham, The American Family Institute

When my son is about only 5-6 weeks away from being 5 now, and while I tell him ‘no kicking’, I still chreish the kicking he did inside me. I feel blessed by having motherhood and feel fortunate to be a woman (else I could not have felt the kicking the way I did 😉 )

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