Does it represent Indian National Dress?

August 26, 2009 at 11:20 pm (Uncategorized)

I am back from vacation. Nice trip to Canada. Hate to get back to grind…for the first time i have this feeling. When people used to say so, i never understood the feeling. It is totally a different subject, anyways….

I was browsing news. I like .

I tend to go to due to natural affection I have for my country. And this is what I found

Do you really see that as our national costume? And what should be our national costume? Sari? May be…then what is they way to wear – Maharshtrian way, Gujarati way, bengali way…? Or Ghaghra choli…or salwar kurta….? It is a big question…..what is our national costume. As correctly mentioned by Gandhiji….unity in diversity….we have diversity in dresses too. So why the desginer adopted this pattern of Gaghra-Choli? I do not question selection of Ghaghara choli vs. Sari vs Salwar Kurta. I question the print and pattern. Blouse does not represent ‘indian’. Not becuase it is revealing. I do not have any issue with it. It feels more like design taken from westenr style evening gowns and not from our style of blouses. We do have revealign blouses in tribes, pattern could have been adopted from there. And the print on Ghaghara…..I do not see it speaking out loud …”this is Indian”. The entire dress may look indianized but not indian. When wore together, we can call it is Ghaghra choli but individual part of it, when seen individually, it does not speak ‘indian’. For example….fabric print on Ghaghara…leaving our peacock, flowers etc print out, why adopt such an ‘abstract art’?

I will keep this sort….not disucss much upfront and wil wait for comments. But am I just being ignorant (not knowing much about all the cultures in India) or speaking the truth…? What is your take?

PS: no doubts that Ekta does look stunning… 🙂


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August 17, 2009 at 10:53 pm (Uncategorized)

Funny Quote of the Day (Aug 17, 2009)

So what is the truth?

 The only time a woman really succeeds in changing a man is when he is a baby.
Natalie Wood

Most women set out to try to change a man, and when they have changed him they do not like him.
Marlene Dietrich

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The Balance Bar

August 7, 2009 at 12:17 am (Uncategorized)

This is for all working women (of course, indian!) out there…especially in US. How do you juggle ur everyday task.

One who has full time job….demanding one, does not matter technical or not. Brain work does drain one out.

Having old in the house with you. Nice people, full of love and support but too old to lead the house hold things.

A kiddo or two….growing up, going to school, taking various classes.

And a spouse….

I sleep 5-6 hrs everyday, yet i do not find time to do extra activties, and let alone extra actvities, I hardly sit down with my son everyday to play or to snuggle him. Everyday we are togather is when we go to bed….and then he is way to excited to get my time. In everyday so much time pressure because no way one can find or afford labor everyday, all work has to be done by one’s self.  Always running around, doing things on the clock….my 4.5 years old son got into habit of asking “mom, do we have time today?” when I ask him why…..he would probably say “can i take bubble bath?” “can you play with me little bit?” This hurts me the most.

Playing a role of engineer, ideal bahu, wife and mom (note missing ideal infront of wife and mom) is not an easy task. I am looking for some help….how other indian working woman cut corners (literally, not being time efficient but getting into ‘can do without it’ attitude), also be time efficient and find time for theirselves.  It becomes so easy to handle stuff when in-laws are not here with us. Having to cook fresh everyday – twice a day, that too ‘good’ and full meal (no – no entry to pasta when they are here)  – it is not an easy task.  How do you handle in-laws to adjust to your life style and yopu having to change your life style to suit them? In-laws or not, what are your tricks to cut corners, time managment….

Please share away….

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A fight

August 3, 2009 at 6:02 pm (Message in a bottle)

So my DS – 4.5 years old had a ‘fight’ with a girl in his class….

I generally pick him up and way to start our conversation is..”o honey! i missed you, I had a nice day though, I had a couple of meetings, some programming…..” I end with “So how was your day?” Answers to this question reflects lots of things as to what goes in his school life. It leads to more questions from me.

This time he said “not good”

I asked: “Why?, what happened? ”

DS: “mom, you always say no name-calling, name-calling is bad….Mia (making up name) did the same to me.”

Me: “o really, what did she say?”

DS: “she told me, ‘bad-man’!”

Me: “hmmm…what did you say?”

DS: “That is not true. I am not bad and I am not even a MAN” (implies: I am a boy!)

Me: “well done, u replied well…so it was was bad thing she did name-calling. But good thing is that u answerd her back politely. That means you had a good day!”

DS: “o mom, that is true!” and a smile comes on his face

So, just got me thinking….how our definition of ‘bad-day’ and level of worries change with our age….just wish we can go back to those golden days!

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