I really want to write on ‘friendship’ or ‘relationship’ for a while but not getting the right words to get my thought s across. So writing on a different subject … “Kites”. I watched the movie the very first day. I have done it for the first time in last 15 years. After moving to USA it was just so hard as not any theater playing any Bollywood movie. Days have changed. There are more than 1 theater in the town which play Indian movies. You will find listing online, in the local news paper. Coming back to “kites”…I have been waiting for this movie ever since they make an announcement about making one.
Yes, the movie did not get any good reviews but I LOVED the movie. Think of it is the old recipe with new and better presentation. All acted well. Chemistry is good between those two and slick direction. Songs, done well. KK rocks too with ‘zindagi, do pal ki’ and ‘dil kuon yeh mera’ (Hirtik TRIED singing (kites, in the sky)for the first time and should be the last time…) Of course I watched the remix version made for US so not sure how slow it gets in Indian version, as at times it felt like that in remixed version. And totally agree there were a couple of glitches (Kabir Bedi: las Vegas ki government meri jeb me hai…O, Come on! No body is going to buy that! And the way Hirtik fools American police …no way!) in the story line but yet beautiful made move.
So what if it is a remake of old hindi move (not disclosing name here for those who have not watched it, it would spoil it for them) and Hirtik is attacking back critics with the similar dialogue which director of that old movie used for good remarks. So old movie director said “we have been giving Idli Dhosa, now that we give Dal-chawal we knew people would like it”. And this is what Hirtik is telling this. So what it is a copy cat, ‘nakal me bhi akkal chahiye’. Deep love has been depicted so well. I would say it is a must watch movie for those who have been in love (‘in love’ is different from ‘loving somebody’. So if you never fall in love, might not understand this) Passion shown so nicely.
First scene of the movie talks about kites and why this movie is named “kites’. When the movie ends you will know it is well justified.
Go with no expectation whether it is a bollywood flick or made for western people…just take it as it comes while watching and I assure you, you will enjoy the romance.
My son turned 5! It was weekend. It was great to have party the same day! Otherwise, it is generally on the following weekend.
All was set, invites were designed by me and my husband. We had decided that for first 5 years, we would have unique(unique means that we will be the first to do it over there in our friend circle) place for party every year and using paper invite instead of e-vite and me writing a small poem for the invite instead of plain words. It was a challenge to find the ‘unique’ place which is appropriate for his age and for our pocketJ My DH did it though this time. We had all the RSVPs, all goody bags bought and packed, cake ordered with bowling design as that is where we were going! All memory cards of the camera emptied to fill again! We were happy this time that my son has not fallen sick, since that happens every year that around his birthday he is bound to be sick. L Many of his friends were ready to be in their Halloween costume as we requested since Halloween is around the corner.
And finally the day arrived, we were on our way to pick up stuff before we go to bowling alley. And a couple of called were received mentioned that DS’s friend can’t make it because they fell sick. My husband answered the phone saying ‘o! o!’. My DS asks me “so mom how come we are getting all the ‘o-o’ calls?” and I agree, I was not getting a good feeling about the party. We stopped for balloon pick up and again ‘o-o’ somebody else was given our pre-ordered balloons by mistake, store prepared new balloons for us and threw in some for free to compensate for their mistake. And we are riding along again, fearing one more ‘o-o’. Now it was time to pick up the cake….and I went through all the cakes in the pick-up closet. I could not find cake with our name. My heart was throbbing fast. Cake can’t be ready again like balloons! And finally, got some help, by mistake they had put my cake in wrong direction that name was facing the wall, and the front was covered with other cakes. All the cakes were placed correctly, just ours was not. Phew! At-least cake is found got in the car, my DH was in hurry as we were now running late after these two incidents. I sat in and he placed the cake in my lap, before I get adjusted and get the cake in the right position, he closed the card door, and cake box was pushed, luckily, my reaction saved the cake. Plastic on the top was touching now the cake decoration as one corner of the box was pushed due to car door. I had to hold the plastic till we reached. We reached 15 mins late, guest started coming. We planned to reach at 2.15 as game starts at 3pm and asked friends to come 2.30 to allow time for kids to get their bowling shoes and all. We ourselves reached at 2.30 instead just to find out party room which was supposed to use for cake cutting and pizza eating after the game was not ready at all. One more ‘o-o’. My DH got all the kids to get shoes etc, and I spent time getting the room ready as guest kept coming, I spent very little time with my DS outside – in bowling alley. When I came out when room was ready, my MIL told me that my DH fell in bowling alley while trying to help my son. A big ‘O-O’. Everything went ok afterwards – kind of – many friends ended up leaving sooner as they had another party afterwards which had come after accepting our invite. So could not do group pictures etc as planned. But still there were plenty kids. My son did not eat at all while all his friends enjoyed pizza and chocolate cake. Finally we went home and my husband realized his pain in his neck, back and wrist. With the fracture he had gone through last year, we did not want to take chance. After dropping DS and in-laws at home, we went to urgent-care. Luckily doc said no fracture, All we need is pain management. Came back, it was time for DS bed as next day school start and we had his school birthday celebration scheduled for Monday. We had to get ready for it. My MIL mentioned that he did not eat well. I was worried, he did not eat well at party and not now, what is going on? He is not a good-eater but he would still eat little bit. When putting to bed, I felt he was so hot and measure his temperature – 101.8. a VERY BIG ‘O-O’. It explains not eating. Gave him Tylenol. I was with him in bed, tired, frustrated and thinking why is he sick always around his birthday….this time while I was happy he was not, it came up end of the day…and in fever also he was happy, smiling, not ready to sleep so that he can be with me for more time, wanting to talk to me. He told me, ‘Mom! You know! I really loved bowling today. It was so so so so so much fun!, when will we go again?” and there! There was that silver lining to my big black cloud of ‘o-o’s in the day! I was satisfied, I was happy that final result was still the same after all the ‘o-o’s. He was happy and enjoyed his party.
He is still sick and running fever. My MIL was rush to ER last week due to her leg issue. My FIL who never had BP issue is running high BP. My DH is still in pain with his fall. In family of 5, 4 are not doing well. I am though! And project deadline is upon me. Caffeine in-take is very high for me now. But I am getting strength from those words, “mom, I really loved bowling today…. “
Earth needs me and I need earth
(Nursery rhyme’s lines from my son’s school)
We all have heard about ‘going green’. How to do it? We all can’t plan out to have ‘zero’ trash or live without electricity for months. Here are the simplest things you can do which would impact earth bigger and for better. When a common person can not go ‘totally green’ without extra time, efforts and money, here are some steps anybody can follow.
1. Switch off lights when not needed, not only you help earth and its environment but also you are saving good money
Did you know?: A 15-Watt Compact Fluorescent Light gives the same light as a 60-Watt incandescent using a quarter of the energy.
2. Use water wisely, save energy. Water is abundance on earth but to get the quality we need to get to us, it does consume lots of energy, and impact earth in the process
Did you know?: Resources are consumed not only to get water in usable state but also in removal and cleaning of waste water too
3. When not in use, unplug appliances, it saves electricity
Did you Know?: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Standby_power
4. Drive smartly can be done in so many ways. For example no sudden start/stop, regular maintenance of vehicle can save lots of gas
Did you know?: It takes 20% to 30% more gas to drive at 70 mph than 50 mph.
5. Choose your food wisely to reduce your carbon footprint
Did you know?: http://www.eatlowcarbon.org/#
6. Recycle smartly, understand symbols and follow
Did you know?: http://greenliving.about.com/od/basics/tp/Recycling-Symbols.htm
7. Say no to plastic bags, disposable silverware. Use reusable items instead.
Did you know?: Earth is running out of landfill space. About 380 billion plastic bag or other such items are used every year
8. Buy energy efficient appliances
Did you know?:One can get tax-break by buying energy efficient appliances
9. Plant trees as many as possible
Did you know?: http://www.helium.com/items/237110-why-planting-trees-is-great-for-the-atmosphere
10. Follow above mentioned steps, make a habit. Pass on the word. Follow R/R/R: Recycle/Reuse/Reduce
Did you know?: If we follow this, our children will thank us.
Some of my favorite oldies (note, I have not listed all) Since Alam Ara, so many movies came and went. So many music directors, list will go on forever. Plethora of songs ( I recall ‘indrasabha’ had 108 songs in the movie). Some leave life-long impressions and some are forgotten well before the new movie gets released. A.R.Rahman is the most popular music director now a days and no doubt he makes good tunes and music. I seem to get over it over the period of time. Music today is not something I want to hear again and again. I love to go back to oldies though. For some reason it is soothing. Is it because no digital recording, no electronic instrument, no/less editing….i do not know….but today I felt like listening to oldies and following are first few popped in mind. Again, like title I repeat, this is not the complete list. Also, I am kind of limiting to happy/romantic mood.
“two flower bobbing days are gone, kiss is a new trend” but there is so much more romance in seeing flowers with such romantic words than watching real lip-locking. Just listen to Lata’s sweet voice and enjoy the calming effects.
‘umango me jab na tuje pa saki, dhoondthi hu tumhe me gam ki tarngo me…’ words are so meaningful
and the list will go on, I will stop here today, will pick it up some other time with other songs. But here is my new favorite, A.R.Rahman did it again…..he brought a new concept. folk-song wordings and tune, mixed with latest hip wording in back-ground…marvelous. But to make my point again, this song is truly amazing, new heights of imaginations in wording, in tune (have not seen it yet so not sure about picturization), unique in a way old music is mixed with new trend music…..marvelous singers – madhushree- Udit. all the good stuff in there yet not soothing….like an old song would be. Why?
PS: I could not find two songs i was hoping to add
1) Khoobsurat Haseena…Kishore Kumar and Kumkum (i think)
2) Jadoogar mere saiya, dil jayega bachake kahan…Sanjeev Kumar and Vaheeda rahman
…on Oprah, what’s so big deal? Well, they never appeared together for interviewed after marriage, first off-movie kiss on Oprah, they have billions of fans and Aish comes in Saree, so it IS a big deal. Totally enchanting interview, I enjoyed it and I hope you would too.
What I liked
1) Aish was dressed in Saree (she was presenting our country and she made the right choice by wearing saree. If she went to Oscar and dressed for occasion – in western clothes, I can understand. Even if she was wearing non-indian dress in India for one of events, I can still understand because one may have preference of style or feel comfortable in or just wants to dress up differently, any reason. At Oprah, she was there as Indian Big B town star and saree was the most appropriate dressing….way to go Aish
2) I like the way Abhi answered questions, very funny…especially “living with parents? How does that work?” and “come out to Chicago on Oprah”
3) Oprah’s style of interacting and presence of mind…especially “look in the mirror and say ‘Damn!…’….” after Aish answers that question.
4) Over all interview, very entertaining
What I did not like
1) I am glad she wore saree but Aish’s saree, it was nice saree, but looked so dull from far away, perfect for party where you will be with people in close proximity where people can admire that little work, that little red strip, matching red earrings. In place like Oprah show, it needs something bold, that people can see from far away
2) Why the heck Abhi was dress how he was dressed….? No kurta for him? What’s up with hairstyle and little bit of beard (though it is his style) he looked like he just came out of bed.
3) Answers were really good, enjoyed the interview but it seemed rehearsed/prepared at many times
4) Aish trying to speak with American accent…..it felt so fake, so did her laugh at times, and fake ‘O my god’ when people were being beaten up outside their marriage location, fake ‘we did not know’, yeah I bet they did not know then but must have seen afterwards….anyways…
5) Also, for some reason I felt Aish was letting Abhi lead it to answer, not sure why. Is Abhi very dominating or may be he is better at handling media than Aish is, or just Aish is letting all attention drive towards him so that he also feels his importance instead of just seeing Aish’s praise all around. You know what I mean, may be Aish was just avoiding ‘Abhiman’ to happen all over again….Also when a person from China who does tele-conf. is taking about Aish only w.r.t. her movie and asking her to come to China, Aish answers back in plural….’we…’. What’s up with that?
Yet really enchanting interview if you are Aish-shek fan! So without further ado….here are the video links, enjoy
We women rock because the hand that rocks the cradle can rock the world
Weather it is a paved path or rock-y, we are strong- as strong as a rock
We know hard-work. will come out with flying colors and shine like a rock
I just wanted (over)use (🙂 ) ‘rock’ in what I wanted to say hence the lines above, instead I could have just expressed as below.
We women rock because the hand that rocks the cradle can rock the world
Women are powerful because we make difference by bringing up new generation in a right way and by ourselves – by dominating on many fronts including career/biz
(I edited the famous saying ‘hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, that is, women/who raises kids can rule the world by raising the kids in a right way so that kid can make a difference in this world. I am changing it a bit by saying, if we can make a difference through our kids by raising kids correctly, why don’t we do it ourselves?, we can and we do)
Weather it is a paved path or rock-y, we are strong- as strong as a rock
We are fine in any situation –steady or shaky. We know how to fight back and be strong (like a rock)
We know hard-work, will come out with flying colors and shine like a rock
We work hard for what we want and we excel at it, we know how to make our place and shine (like a rock – diamond)
Three cheers to these career-women!
(After reading a blog of a blog-friend, I agree women have been working since the start of human-generation then what is up with really ‘working-woman’ term. So I coin a word ‘career-woman’. Seems it is self-explanatory though one can argue that in past women had careers by helping in the family business – say farming. I agree but it was ‘help’ and they did not make any money as blog mentions. Also it was not seen as main accountable person for the whole business. So let’s put it this way, career-woman who thrives to make difference in this world, held accountable for a role she has outside her house and makes money out of it. I can still see some arguments going, but that is not the point of this blog I have so I am not going into details.)
(and I know in that introspect, I should change my name to ICW from IWW😉 )
Any day is a woman-day, happy woman-day!
Both the ladies were murdered in their known and closed territory, Aarushi in her house and Annie in her office. Avid watcher of crime shows like I am, can tell it was open-shut case because it was done in victims’ own area. Easy to find evidences, easy to find motives and easy to drive a list of suspects and drive conclusion. While both are unfortunate incidents, Annie finds justice in few days as it happened in U.S. and Aarushi is still waiting for one even after 16 months, just because in happened in India?
Chronological info for both the cases can be found here or just search for their names on web.
When I came across news that Aarushi’s cell phone found 16 months after her murder, it was not a shocker till I read details that it was being use all this time. In this technology era, when India can make a breakthrough in findings like water on moon, why would it take to such a long time to locate a working (on and off) cell phone?
In Annie’s case, police collected over 100 forensics evidence, in Aarushi’s case, police happily allowed media to roam around in the area of crime scene. Why? Did they already know it was going to happen and wanted to lose the evidences?
From many places no fingerprint was collected? Why? Lack of diligence, lack of knowledge or lack of integrity and honesty?
Police did not see blood trail going up the terrace? (Where Talwar’s domestic helper’s body was) why? Simply negligence?
Parents used to lock Aarushi’s bedroom every night? Why? Were they suspecting something?
Some site reports Talwars were not home when it happened and some mentions they slept through the murder? What is the truth? How parents can leave a teenage daughter at alone with ‘male’ domestic helper.
Aarushi’s vaginal sample was switched? Why? Lab tech who did the testing knows Talwars is just a co-incident?
My list of ‘Why’ can just go on but it is not the point. Question is Annie’s murderer is found and Aarushi is still waiting. Example of ‘water on moon’ shows we are not behind in technology so what is taking too long?
And if the domestic helper did it, or father did it, is it a shoddy social system we have?
Police did not do due diligence in initial investigation because they were bribe or they were not trained, then is it shoddy protection/legal system we have or shoddy education system we have?
CBI is still probing the case and as some reports, CBI planting and finding evidences, again is it shoddy protection/legal system we have?
Also after finding the cell phone, update is there was a number she talked for hours, does technology do us more harm than good? Should we not allow our kids to have their freedom, their space, and exposure to technologies for mundane life?
When Annie’s murder can be found so soon why Aarushi has to wait is my only question. Main lead on CBI for this case has been change has been many time and I hope some ‘mai ka lal/lali’ would come now and get Aarushi justice in a righteous way.
In 21st Century, how we raise or want to raise out child has changed a lot from how our parents or grandparents did. For one, I almost end up treating like my DS as an adult in the house for the most part (though I make sure he knows ‘who is the boss’😉 I have lots of differences from what/how my in-laws want to do things for my DS. Like, my MIL goes ‘do not allow kid to touch anything in the car, it is very risky’…rightly so if we have not discussed the rules and safety issues. I allow touching stuff in the car with restrictions. Honking horn is ok, using car-keys is not. I think that helps kids to feel importance and learn responsibilities. Another example, I would get help from my DS to unload the dishwasher or to put laundry in dryer from washer. For me it is a step towards being ‘independent’. For MIL, earning (because he is a man, you know what I mean) is (and for now, him being able to eat by himself and such things are only under the list of being independent) part of being independent. Anyhow, I can go on and on. But idea of parenting for basic essential is still the same- showing love, giving time, listening, trusting….and much more. But though the concept remain the same, how we do it has changed, in my opinion. I came across following two poems and I think they capture it beautifully….they say it all….i rest my case🙂
“Everyday I Have My Child to Raise Over Again”by Diane Loomans
Every day I have my child to raise all over again.
I will build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I will finger-paint more, and point the finger less.
I will do less correcting, and more connecting.
I will take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I will care to know less, and know to care more.
I will take more hikes, and fly more kites.
I will stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I will run through more fields, and gaze at more stars.
I will do more hugging, and less tugging.
I will see the oak tree in the acorn more often.
I will be firm less often, and affirm much more.
I will model less about the love of power, and more about the power of love.
Lifetime Memories for Our Children
Pause with your child—when others hurry by;
Walk with your child—when others are running;
Smile with your child—when others can only find frowns;
Listen to your child—when others appear preoccupied;
Talk with your child—when others prefer shouting;
Hug your child—when others fail to sense the power of touch;
Read with your child—when others have forsaken curiosity;
Play with your child—when others prefer being entertained;
Apologize to your child—when others pretend perfection;
Dream with your child—when others have become too cynical.
by Dr. Anthony Witham, The American Family Institute
When my son is about only 5-6 weeks away from being 5 now, and while I tell him ‘no kicking’, I still chreish the kicking he did inside me. I feel blessed by having motherhood and feel fortunate to be a woman (else I could not have felt the kicking the way I did😉 )
I am back from vacation. Nice trip to Canada. Hate to get back to grind…for the first time i have this feeling. When people used to say so, i never understood the feeling. It is totally a different subject, anyways….
I was browsing news. I like www.yahoo.com .
I tend to go to http://in.yahoo.com due to natural affection I have for my country. And this is what I found
Do you really see that as our national costume? And what should be our national costume? Sari? May be…then what is they way to wear – Maharshtrian way, Gujarati way, bengali way…? Or Ghaghra choli…or salwar kurta….? It is a big question…..what is our national costume. As correctly mentioned by Gandhiji….unity in diversity….we have diversity in dresses too. So why the desginer adopted this pattern of Gaghra-Choli? I do not question selection of Ghaghara choli vs. Sari vs Salwar Kurta. I question the print and pattern. Blouse does not represent ‘indian’. Not becuase it is revealing. I do not have any issue with it. It feels more like design taken from westenr style evening gowns and not from our style of blouses. We do have revealign blouses in tribes, pattern could have been adopted from there. And the print on Ghaghara…..I do not see it speaking out loud …”this is Indian”. The entire dress may look indianized but not indian. When wore together, we can call it is Ghaghra choli but individual part of it, when seen individually, it does not speak ‘indian’. For example….fabric print on Ghaghara…leaving our peacock, flowers etc print out, why adopt such an ‘abstract art’?
I will keep this sort….not disucss much upfront and wil wait for comments. But am I just being ignorant (not knowing much about all the cultures in India) or speaking the truth…? What is your take?
PS: no doubts that Ekta does look stunning…🙂